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@freedomwriter76
OHMYWORDHEISCUTE! *Gasps a self declared cat person*
First Grand Historian of Arreth and the Lesser Realms (aka Kitty)
Fork the Gork😉 Okay, I wouldn’t say that you should be completely detached. Yes – I find every author identifies with their characters in some way. Our characters are, ultimately, meant to personify a theme that the author has spent a long time thinking about. Sometimes it’s a theme the author has personal experience with. That’s very, very important.
I guess when I say we should be detached from our characters, I mean we shouldn’t put a huuuge emotional weight on our characters, so much so that we depend on them to work out our emotional problems.
Like you are 100% right – using your character as a picture of your own personal struggles is great. We just shouldn’t project ourselves onto the character soooo much, that we become slightly obsessed. I’ve been wary of that danger lately, because only God can help you with your problems – not your characters.
So yes, use a piece of yourself in your characters! But too often, the characters are used as emotional crutches.
Like, you know Marcel?
He has huge self-esteem issues. He doesn’t see himself as naturally lovable, or cool. He will indulge himself, and then beat himself up inside his head: I don’t deserve this… I’m pathetic… I’m lame…
By the end, that majorly affects him, and does not end up well.
I identify a lot with Marcel, more than I want to admit.
But here’s the thing: because of that, I need to distance myself from him, and not use him as an emotional solution to the point where I need his imaginary existence to… be there. Because that’s mentally unhealthy.
So do we have the same problems? Sure. But we have different personalities. Different appearances. Different perceptions of right and wrong. And he is so exaggerated, that it makes him also a comedic outlet.
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I think we actually agree, just on different levels XD Like yeah, put yourself into your characters – you shouldn’t remove them from you completely.
Just…obsessing over fictional characters is unhealthy. That’s what I’m trying to avoid. I’ve seen a lot of writers become overly obsessive, and pour their souls into their work, only to mess up their mental situation.
I just wanna make sure Ara’s (and other characters’) roles are not representing too much for you, Godly, because even though we’re here to write – writer to writer, I want you to be healthy ❤❤ Because I can’t tell through texting, sometimes, and I wanna make sure.
(Also THANK U!! for the compliment)
“Everything is a mountain”
XD girl… I’m really doing what you’re talking about here. I basically live and breath characters and yeah It’s kind of exuasting, it didn’t occur to me until I read what you said there that maybe it is unhealthy… it’s kinda a hard thing though because writing is kinda the only way I have to deal with emotions. I always thought God gave me writing to help me through difficult times of my life, but yeah finding that balance is hard.
"And so I left this world just as I had entered it. Confused."
Girl ❤❤❤ I agree, it is extremely exhausting, and although we can use our characters for good, we can also use them in self-harm. I hope you are doing okay, and that you’ll keep the balance ❤
This is something I am weak in, and this is why I am skeptical when it comes to writing super emotional scenes, because I think we writers put ourselves into them too much.
We need to love using our characters, but they are tools, NOT lifelines.
“Everything is a mountain”
@whalekeeper yea, I do this a lot honestly. And I don’t want to use this as an excuse but I do have OCD, and that does play a part into things no matter how much you’d like to say it doesn’t ya know? But again I don’t want to use that as an excuse.
but of course only God can change us!! But I also feel that God gave me this gift for a purpose, and it’s multiple purposes, and one of those purposes can be for my own gain/enjoyment/help.
If I need sometimes to decipher my own thoughts using writing, God has given me this anointing and talent to do so. Only He can change me and deliver me, but I believe He’s anointed me and given me an outlet ya know?
but yea I do get obsessed but not over just my characters. In truth I get super obsessed over other characters maybe more then my own XD
#IfMarcelDiesIRiot
#ProtectMarcel
#ProtectSebWe are definitely given our writing talents from God, meant to be used as a blessing or outlet. And yeah, sometimes we can learn from our characters. That’s what they’re for.
We just shouldn’t obsess over them, yeah?
We should be aware of our own habits and tendencies, and try to fix them. I’m working on it myself.
Anywhooooo…
*My awkwardness intensifies*
“Everything is a mountain”
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@godlyfantasy12 YESSS, HE’S SO CUTE!!!! 😍😍
@whalekeeper He’s kinda in the middle, lol XD He’ll play for a while, growl and bark a little, chase our other dog around (he legit almost always hops everywhere he goes instead of walking 😂😂) but at the same time he’ll take long naps and plenty of them.So yeahhh, kinda in the middle 😂
(of course, my mom found out that his breed can sleep up to 20 hours a day when they’re puppies, so….😆)
@mineralizedwritings Yep, we got a new puppy!!! (probably the sole reason I’ve been away from KP for a while now, lol XXD) His name is Hank!!! 💗
@koshka IKR!? 💗💗 So cuteeeeee!!!!! (haha, I get itttt! XD I’m 100% a dog person (likely partially because my mom is severely allergic to cats, 😅) but I still find some kittens and cats cute from time to time)Thanks for the input girl, I need to be more aware of that. <33
There’s definitely been times that characters were lifelines for me, and yeah maybe it’s not the best.
"And so I left this world just as I had entered it. Confused."
@freedomwriter76
I think kp ate my post… anyways sorry if you’re seeing this twice on accident lol,
I was talking to my sister the other day, telling her about our really awkward conversation (About bucky lol) and she told me that the thought of Bucky being attractive never would have crossed her mind 🤣🤯🤯
I was like but his beautiful hair!!
She said it’s greasy and he looks like a mountain man 😭😭😭
I was like NOOOOO!!!😭😭😨
How could anyone be so insulting?!
We also apparently disagree on Hawkeyes asymmetrical sleeve design, I think it’s very cool and she thinks it’s weird. 😢
Anyways we’ve agreed to disagree but I’ll never understand her point of view.
"And so I left this world just as I had entered it. Confused."
@freedomwriter76
Ahhhhhh, whattttttttt!?
How could she not think that this boi is cute???
*sadness*
IKR!?
IT”S SUCH A TRADGEDY
😭😭😭 How could she say that about Bucky Boi???
(one of my aunts said he looked like a hobo before cutting his hair and stuff, and she said that Bucky looks weird in general 😵😢)
DUDE WHAT?!
NOO
Bucky is very cute he does not look like a hobo.
He looks weird?! He looks so extremely cool though!
Awwww, sadness.
XD
Understandable. I would never understand someone that would hate on Bucky Boi either 😑
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And as for our older conversation (that I can get back to since the puppy’s sleeping, woo-hoo. XD)
Sorry health and other things in life have brought you down a few times lately, but I’m always here for you, girl 💗💗
<3<3<3
Going to the climbing gym will be a lot of fun, and I think it’ll be good for you too…always good to get out, get some fresh air, and exercise!!! Glad you’re excited for the coming year. And aww, glad I can make you feel better. I…uh…have forgotten exercises for the past several days now…this puppy has me way distracted 😅 But glad I can help you feel a little less lonely <3
XDXD I get it! yeah, puppy does sound distracting.
Yess, the process of writing is tough but fun!!! Oh, that must be rough. Hope you get better sleep soon!!! 💖
Thanks! <3
#WriterThings
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Ooh, cool!!! They might be hard, but you’ve got this!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Thanks girl! I hope XD
Yep, a feeling of both excitement and dread…yep, feel ya there XD
Yeah, pretty excited for most of my classes 😄
As far as books, not really sure! I think I’ll mostly be choosing them for myself (mom just wants me to be able to write book reports and tell her about what books I read for the reports and stuff) but I know I’ll probably write a book report on The Hobbit by JRR Tolkien since I’m going to be borrowing it from my friend…and if I like it…I shall move onto The Lord Of The Rings series…😉
Sounds good! I should read lotr, my sister loves it and has read the silmirilian too, it’s a compilation of all of Tolkeins notes about his world/history, collecred after he died. His worldbuilding was sooo extensive from what I’ve heard.
Also the Hobbit is a kids book, very different from the rest of the series. If you don’t like the hobbit, I’d still give the rest of the series a try, it’s a lot different.
WOAH, that’s epic that you’ll already have 2 years of college done!!! That’s amazing!!!! ✨✨✨ Dual enrollment where I live is super-duper expensive…😅😑
Dude, what? It’s a money saving thing over here XD! Like, people do duel enrollment because it’s cheaper than waiting to do college. I mean all I pay is a quarterly fee of 250 and book costs.
Hmm, honestlyyyy, I don’t dread that question, but at the same time…it’s kinda hard.
idk what kind of career I really want, honestly
I know what God wants me to do, but it’s not really a career, y’know?
I’ve felt called (especially in recent weeks) by God that not only will I be working with kids (which I absolutely adore, love, and cherish) in my future, but he also specifically has called me to work…with orphans.
That’s sooo cool! I can’t wait to see where that goes for you! I have no idea what specifically I should be doing, except I might become a dentel hygenist, they have shorter hours so I could still have time to write and draw.
and girl, that dream has me excited more than any other dream or career idea that I’ve ever had
Yes that is so exciting!!! 💗💗
idk about a career tho, but to help with working with orphans, I’ll probably be looking at a degree along the lines of early childhood education.
But as for a regular career that I can earn money and things with? Not really sure 😅
XD I’m sure you’ll figure it out. And you have like the first two years of college (if you go) to think about it while you fulfill general requirements.
Also I’m sending my sister that pic of bucky to sway her. I know he’s not her type but I’m determined.
"And so I left this world just as I had entered it. Confused."
@freedomwriter76 @mineralizedwritings
…I gotta be honest…
Since y’all are on the subject…
I never really found Bucky to be that eye-catching. Or, like, crAzy attractive. Actually I kinda forgot he existed until Civil War. Like, I enjoyed his depressed glare 😂 But other than that, it’s like… eh, he exists, and he’s a cool guy. There ya go.
Alright, you can send me to prison now *holds out wrists for handcuffs*
“Everything is a mountain”
Oh also freedoms post got eaten, but she posted the most loveley pic of Bucky.
…I gotta be honest…
Since y’all are on the subject…
I never really found Bucky to be that eye-catching. Or, like, crAzy attractive. Actually I kinda forgot he existed until Civil War. Like, I enjoyed his depressed glare 😂 But other than that, it’s like… eh, he exists, and he’s a cool guy. There ya go.
Excuse me?
Are you kidding? 🤨
You are untitled to your own incorrect opinion.
Did you see him in tfatws? He’s super cute playing with the kids.
Alright, you can send me to prison now *holds out wrists for handcuffs*
Not yet, I’m writing up the report.
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DUDE WHAT?!
NOO
Bucky is very cute he does not look like a hobo.
He looks weird?! He looks so extremely cool though!
IKR!?
Welllll, my Aunt has the freedom to have her opinion, even if it is wrong 🤣
XDXD I get it! yeah, puppy does sound distracting.
Very distracting and exhausting. Almost feel like I could sleep for a month or more XXD
Thanks! <3
You’re so welcome!!! 💖💖
Thanks girl! I hope XD
Again, you’re very welcome!!! <3 Of course girl, you’ve got this!!!
Sounds good! I should read lotr, my sister loves it and has read the silmirilian too, it’s a compilation of all of Tolkeins notes about his world/history, collecred after he died. His worldbuilding was sooo extensive from what I’ve heard.
Also the Hobbit is a kids book, very different from the rest of the series. If you don’t like the hobbit, I’d still give the rest of the series a try, it’s a lot different.
Yes, his worldbuilding is VERY extensive, lol…I could never do what he did 😅🤣
Hmmmmm…if I don’t like it…I may just need to try LOTR anyways…hmmm…🤔 I think I’ll at least try the first LOTR book after reading The Hobbit 😉
Dude, what? It’s a money saving thing over here XD! Like, people do duel enrollment because it’s cheaper than waiting to do college. I mean all I pay is a quarterly fee of 250 and book costs.
I meannnn, compared to waiting to do college, maybe it WOULD be cheaper, but idk, lol…XD
That’s sooo cool! I can’t wait to see where that goes for you! I have no idea what specifically I should be doing, except I might become a dentel hygenist, they have shorter hours so I could still have time to write and draw.
Thx girl 💗 I’ve kinda known for a while that God wants me to work with kids, but I’ve recently begun to feel called to work with orphans specifically (and subsequently, a lot more of my writing has begun to feature orphans, lol! XD) and I’m pretty excited. Ooh, that’d be cool!! A girl that recently graduated, from our church, is going to college to become a dental hygenist. 😄
Yes that is so exciting!!! 💗💗
Very!!! 💗💗💗
XD I’m sure you’ll figure it out. And you have like the first two years of college (if you go) to think about it while you fulfill general requirements.
That’s true. XD 💖💖
Also I’m sending my sister that pic of bucky to sway her. I know he’s not her type but I’m determined.
Perfecto 🤌
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@whalekeeper @mineralizedwritings
how could you forget that Bucky exists, Whaley??? 😭😭
*helps Min write the report and get an arrest warrant*
(oh, btw, Happy Independence Day, y’all!!! ❤️🤍💙)
Sounds fun!! Hope you feel better soon, if you don’t already 😉
Yes it was!! Aww thanks! I do, thankfully 🙂
How’s your writing going? Any recent inspirations?
Uuummmm…not great, honestly. I haven’t actually written anything in weeks 😅🤣 But today while I was washing dishes I just got an inspiration for a scene or maybe even another book (which I definitely do not need in ma life rn, but hey, who knows, maybe it’ll be my best story yet XD)
What about you, girl? 🙂
Doing okay! Kinda crashing at home tho, since evangelism is exhausting… I really enjoyed myself, but I need to rest, or else my week at camp will be mostly sleeping 😂
Oh I totally get that girl! Yesterday was crazy, and I’m still kinda tired, but it was amazing and totally worth it XD 😀 Yes sister, go get you some rest!
And girl…
You don’t think Bucky is cute? 😭🥺
#HugRikerSquad
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