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You have no idea how happy that makes me that you’re so….idk how to say it…exited about Lefse!! (sorry I’m not good at putting coherent thoughts together lol)
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@kydonandwillow I like Willthorne too.
I don’t spend too much time coming up with ship names. I just pick what sounds natural if you say it….
"When in doubt, eat cheese crackers."-me to my charries who don't even know about cheese crackers
Does anyone understand having two characters that can hypothetically be shipped, and people would probably ship them, but you’re torn on whether you want to confirm said ship?
Because I am having that problem right now 😆
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yes. For several of my characters. Sometimes I wonder if it’s even at all possible to write a good friendship between a guy and a girl without running into that problem.
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 Sometimes I wonder if it’s even at all possible to write a good friendship between a guy and a girl without running into that problem.
I haven’t run into this problem too much in my own writing but I feel like this has happened to me irl… and it’s left me wondering how to go about having a good guy-girl friendship without it getting messy and complicated. If anyone has any advice on how to go about cultivating healthy friendships with the opposite sex without it getting complicated, I’d love to hear it!Â
I think part of the problem when writing about those kinds of friendships is that friendship is one of the strongest foundations for a romantic relationship, because that’s what will sustain the relationship over time once all the butterflies go away. So naturally a deep friendship starts to lead into a romantic relationship unless you put up clear boundaries. But again, that’s just my analyzation of the situation and not necessarily a solution to the problem….
"Real love is for your good, not for your comfort." -Justin Whitmel Earley
There, confirmation! I develop the friendship, but then the possibility of a ship squiggles its way into my mental conversation with myself. And then picturing what that ship would look like creates an alternate timeline of sorts, and you have an even bigger squiggle.
I think part of the problem when writing about those kinds of friendships is that friendship is one of the strongest foundations for a romantic relationship, because that’s what will sustain the relationship over time once all the butterflies go away. So naturally a deep friendship starts to lead into a romantic relationship unless you put up clear boundaries.
That makes a lot of sense.
Irl I definitely have the same problem. At least three guys have crushed on me in my life as a teen, and various others have tried to be closer to me. I don’t think it’s because I’m beautiful or physically attractive (not saying I’m… not, but you understand). I just try to have conversation with them, which to me, means fostering a deep understanding of who they are as a complex human being. It makes me sad that some guys can’t distinguish between simple friendship and true love – not because they’re too dense necessarily, but because a friendship like that isn’t normal to them.
I just try to make it clear, I treat them no better than anyone else. This is not special treatment; I have spiritual-checkup conversations on a daily basis, and yes, it is normal for me to care about your spiritual well being.
So far that has helped… idk if it works for everyone, but sometimes explaining your status quo in friendship clears things up.
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Yeah the one guy friendship I had that got close(ish) reached the point where at least one of our teachers thought we were interested in each other, and even though the two of us had a conversation about not wanting to date there were definitely mixed messages on the part of both of us. I think we were both just immature, and I didn’t know how to go about having a healthy friendship without getting my emotions too tied up in it.Â
"Real love is for your good, not for your comfort." -Justin Whitmel Earley
I’ve never had that problem in real life. I’ve just had it with characters. Probably because I don’t know how to make friends in the first place lol
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Wyoooohhhh, may your chicken wings always be too dry
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Ouch. I almost feel sorry for Wyoh now.😬
If you want to find all the cops, they're hanging out in the donut shop.
@whalekeeper lol yes. I have several.
I’m a shipper kinda person. I could care less about real-life romance. But characters? Certainly. I ship pairs which aren’t likely sometimes lol. I retain ships in which a character died, unless the other character moves on and has found a better character to be with. I’m pretty hardcore, until convincing evidence comes up to prove that I need to switch ships. Part of the reason I make up so many OC’s is so I can ship them with canon characters lol
However, I have done some guy-girl friendships, and that might because I’m pretty close to my brother so I know what a nonromatic, more siblinglike male-to-female friendship is like.
"When in doubt, eat cheese crackers."-me to my charries who don't even know about cheese crackers
Let’s try this again, one reply at a time
Hey, at least you have the emotional intelligence to look back and evaluate what happened 😊
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I would be besties with you in real life and buy you a mocha, and we could talk about life at an aesthetic coffee shop. I think you’re cool 😊<3
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I love your signature XD I read it randomly to my dad, and I think it restored some of his faith in online communities.
Ah, the shipping is strong with this one…
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